Monday, 4 July 2016

Leaving.....


It's a time of change for us here.  Our house moving plans are progressing and we hope to be in our new home by early August. And in the last couple of weeks both my daughter and husband have moved on too.

For the last five years Kate has attended the school where I teach.  I have enjoyed this as it has given me a window on her world and mostly she has too, though during her early adolescence I was forbidden to speak to her at school, as I was the most embarrassing parent ever, it seems. Recently she is happy to acknowledge me and sharing gossip about school has been fun.  It's also been good for me as a teacher to see things from the students' point of view.

In the last few weeks there have been several events to celebrate the end of year 11: the 'Leavers' Assembly' which involved her and some friends, two in drag, performing as the Spice Girls.  Then there was the 'Prom', a hateful American import all schools seem to do now, which has cost a great deal of money - full length dress, shoes with heels (for a girl who's happier in her Docs), make up by Urban Decay (which she didn't like anyway and redid herself) and 'prom hair'.  Much competition between the girls and lots of posed photos posted on Facebook which seems to be the point of the whole ridiculous business for some. And all this expensive gear worn for only a few hours in a hotel function room, an average meal and a disco, before the whole lot was taken off and she was back in her hoodie for the real fun at the 'after prom' party.



Then there's the tradition of the Leavers' Book, which I do approve of.   Students stick photos and mementos of their friends in a scrap book and then write pages in each other's books about their memories. They also ask teachers to write in their books so I've had a chance to look at a few. Some are real works of art and the things they have written about each other are often very moving.  Now all these events are over she's a bit sad but starting to think ahead - there's a taster day for sixth form college soon.

Last week my husband also left his workplace of the last 5 years, retiring early after many years in local government - he turned 55 on Friday.  Kate and I travelled to Shrewsbury where he works for his leaving do.  I'd not met his colleagues as he works so far away so it was interesting to put faces to the names (and unflattering nicknames) I'd heard him talk about.  There was a good turn out at the riverside pub where we spent the evening. Much consumption of Guinness and it was a good job we were with him on the train on the way back otherwise he may have ended up in Holyhead.  Among his leaving gifts are an apron which says 'Grumpy Old Git', a mug which refers to him as an 'Emmerdale Fan' and a coaster which describes him, among other things, as a 'Deirdre Barlow impersonator'.  We enjoyed the evening and I reckon it was good for Kate to see how people valued her dad when she often has a very low opinion of him.

And in the background of all this change at home, we've had the shock of the country's decision to leave the EU.  I've always seen myself as essentially European, being neither properly Irish and slightly uncomfortable about calling myself as British with all of the associations this has in NI.  I'm so sad about this vote, the chaos and the hate it seems to have unleashed. I hope when things settle down there will be a way forward which brings the country together again.

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  1. I hope that all goes well with your move and that whatever the future brings for your daughter and husband that it is all good too - and for you too of course!

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    1. Thanks! Lots of boxes from the removals company have now arrived so starting to seem real..

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  2. Good luck with the house move and all the changes. The end of several eras... Love the Prom photo - we have that to look forward to next year. For a moment I thought she might have worn the Docs to the Prom under that dress. Docs very much the footwear of choice for the 15 year old here too.

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    1. I think she would have if she could have got away with it. Now we have this full length dress hanging in the wardrobe which won't be worn again anytime soon. And no doubt this is replicated in many households around the country - what a waste!

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  3. Your daughter looks lovely in her Prom dress, Doris. As you say, it's a shame prom dresses are only worn once or twice. Could it be altered into a cocktail dress? I hope the house sale and move goes smoothly. It really is all change for your family and I wish you all the best. x

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  4. What a lot of change! Very exciting times. Your daughter looks very beautiful in her dress. The boys' school does a 6th year Prom too. Like you I dislike the overblown nature of the event. When I was at school we had a 6th year disco. Great fun and I think I wore jeans, can't even remember! If /when my boys go we will probably just hire kilts for them, though that costs a fortune too.....! Good luck with the house move, look forward to hearing all anout your new home x

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  5. So much change! At school in NI we had formals in lower sixth year which sounds very like your daughter's do except minus the expensive hairdo, make-up etc. As this was a very, very long time ago there were no staged photographs.

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