|Me with some my best friends - two of my sisters. 1967? I'm on the right/|
This post was inspired by a school assembly last week. Pupils were being warned again about the perils of Facebook. In the hands up which opened the assembly some kids claimed to have over 1000 'friends'. My daughter has around 200, all of whom she claims to have met. They were asked to remove from their list of 'friends' anyone they did not actually know properly - those friends of friends etc. The head ended the assembly by saying that for her friends were people she had met in person.Which got me thinking.
A friend is someone whose company you enjoy, who supports you when you need it and listens to you. So in the last year since I've been writing this and reading other blogs I feel I've made some new friends. I look forward to the posts from my favourite bloggers and am delighted when some of them have read and commented on mine. I know that sometimes bloggers meet up for real - I recently enjoyed reading this post from Avril at School Gate Style who met up with other fashion bloggers in London. I wonder whether the friends I've made on here would be as I imagine if we met and what they would think of me..... .
One of my favourite blog discoveries in the last year is written by Yvonne Watterson who is from the same area of Northern Ireland as me, an English teacher and mother of a teenage daughter. She now lives in Arizona but still has close links with NI, writing for the local newspaper in Antrim. Her posts are proper serious writing dealing with issues and ideas, yet personal at the same time. I was shocked and saddened to hear how she lost her husband in November, around the same time I lost my father. She wrote about her grief in a very moving yet dignified way and my heart went out to her. She has now decided to have a break from blogging to write a book. I'm pleased for her but will miss her regular posts.
Yvonne announced her decision to have a break from blogging. But recently a couple of the bloggers I read regularly have not posted for a long time and I'm hoping they are ok especially since there were hints that all was not well in some cases. I miss them as I would a friend who's gone away.
So that's why I don't agree with our head 's view that a friend has to be someone you have met.